Surrogacy: A mother understands what a child does not say:)

The ministry of health and family welfare of India introduced the surrogacy bill in the year 2016, for uplifting the rights of the surrogate mother as well as the bill aimed at banning commercial surrogacy to protect women from exploitation. Although the bill permits altruistic surrogacy under strict regulations, as an agreement between the surrogate and infertile couple in which surrogate mother will be paid for the entire medical bill. Surrogacy is only for the couple who are married at least for the five years, and they do not have any biological, adopted or surrogate child.

It is prophecy of intend couple, that baby has to alive and healthy, for that a surrogate mother must live a healthy lifestyle to take care of someone else’s child. The age of the surrogate mother should be between 25-35 and her body mass index (BMI) should be under 32. Intended parents basically want to make sure surrogate is taking care of the pregnancy like they would, if it was their own child were carrying.

Surrogacy is said to an agreement, but there is no guarantee for baby’s life and health. He or she is not any commodity that anyone can change or buy another after baby’s death.

If in case surrogate mother changed her mind upon birth and refused to hand over the child to intended parents a legal action will be taken against her, but what about her feeling that arose for baby, that emotional touch which she recognize in nine months. Is it easy for her to give the baby on an agreement?  As well as who will take care of her after the birth of the baby?

The surrogate carries infant in her womb for nine months and that duration is sufficient to get emotionally connected with baby. The feeling which she comes to know during the period of pregnancy is priceless, the moment when baby kick and rotate around the wall of uterus is the most phenomenal feeling that a woman feel in her lifetime. Just because of an agreement emotionally connected bond broke up and relationship gets over. A surrogate mother cannot be genetically related to that child, legally and psychologically, she will not be having any right over the child even the name is also not revealed in the birth certificate. There will be no connection of baby and surrogate mother after the baby’s birth.

On the other hand intended parents may not have the same parental bonding experience with the child, they have to prepare for the emotional transfer of the baby and ensure that they are ready to develop a healthy attachment. They have to confirm the baby senses as from last nine month baby’s emotions was attached with surrogate mother.